Colossians 3:18-20

Wives, be subject to your husbands [subordinate and adapt yourselves to them], as is right and fitting and your proper duty in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives [be affectionate and sympathetic with them] and do not be harsh or bitter or resentful toward them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this is pleasing to the Lord. Colossians 3:18-20

All of these verses are pretty self explanatory. But a couple things do stick out to me: The first is the Truth that husbands are to be sympathetic towards their wives. Jesus is our Husband and we are His Bride. So these Words apply to Jesus as well as they apply to us, so Jesus must be sympathetic towards us. He can never be harsh towards us or bitter at us or He will be breaking His very Own Word. 

For the Son of man came to save [from the penalty of eternal death] that which was lost. Matthew 18:11

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her, So that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word, That He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things [that she might be holy and faultless]. Ephesians 5:25-27

We are told in the Word that all Judgment has been given to Jesus and that He never will change, so He has to be sympathetic and He cannot be harsh when He judges. Think of the Cross and how Jesus acted and then and you will see exactly how He will judge. Think of Judgment Day. Think of how every knee will be bowing and every tongue will be confessing that Jesus is Lord on that Day. Everyone will be doing the very thing that we are told in the Bible is needed to become the Bride of Christ. Every one, not just us, but everyone will be doing this. Now think of the Truth that Jesus, the Husband, must be sympathetic and not harsh towards His wife. How is He obligated to judge when all of this is going on? I believe that mercy and forgiveness are going to abound on that Day far more than what most people think. 

Well then, as one man’s trespass [one man’s false step and falling away led] to condemnation for all men, so one Man’s act of righteousness [leads] to acquittal and right standing with God and life for all men. Romans 5:18

Jesus knows the Beginning and the End, because He is the Beginning and the End. So He knows that all of us are going to be His Bride’s. We all have been called and chosen to be Jesus’ wives before He ever created the world, so doesn’t He have to be merciful towards us right now? He cannot be harsh towards us now can He? Many try to tell us of how Judgment is being poured out on us because of sin, but the Bible tells us something else.

But then Law came in, [only] to expand and increase the trespass [making it more apparent and exciting opposition]. But where sin increased and abounded, grace (God’s unmerited favor) has surpassed it and increased the more and superabounded, Romans 5:20

There is Judgment on the world, but people are not the world. Things like money, houses, cars, possessions, jobs, greed, evil, stinginess, hate, and fear are the things of the world. People are not the world, people are what Jesus came to save. The world is being judged and our Father is attacking the things of the world. We may think that His Judgement is against us, but it is not, it is against the things of the world that harm us. Jesus came to save the lost and He is very, very successful at what He has been sent to do. We may buck and kick and scream as the worldly things are being judged around us, thinking that the attack is against us, but it is not, it is against the things that are harming us.